The Qualities of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

Unless you are in the medical profession and happen to choose Alzheimer’s as your specialty, you probably didn’t decide one day to become an Alzheimer’s caregiver. No, most likely, this role has been thrust upon you because a family member has Alzheimer’s and that person’s care has primarily fallen to you. How will you know what to do? What kinds of skills do you need? What are the qualities that will make you effective in this new, unfamiliar role?


Do your homework

A good place to start is with your loved one’s physician. Make a list of all the questions and concerns you have; nothing is too small or unimportant. Go to your local library or bookstore and conduct your own research online. Find out what’s really important in caring for someone with Alzheimers – it’s not so much about the meds and treatments as it is about developing the qualities of the heart that can ease the devastating effects of this disease.

Many of the local Alzheimer’s organizations provide education, training, and support for the family members of Alzheimer’s patients and those who are involved in their day-to-day care. Check into these valuable resources, and don’t try to go it alone. You will probably also want to join a support group for Alzheimer’s caregivers. In addition to providing moral support, this will be a source of practical information on being an effective caregiver.


Handling the day-to-day

As an Alzheimer’s caregiver, you’ll want to give your loved one as much freedom and independence as they can handle. Involve them in everyday tasks as long as they are able. You’ll need lots of patience and understanding, and lots of emotional control. Take time for yourself as well, planning breaks into your long day. Get enough rest, and be sure to drink lots of water!

Let go of your expectations of how things should be. Alzheimer’s turns the world as you know it upside down, and you will have to learn to develop new routines that are flexible enough to handle the chaos that often erupts seemingly out of nowhere. Be good to yourself and your patient. Some days will be better than others!

Be creative in planning a variety of activities in order to break up the days. Perhaps other family members and/or friends would be willing to rotate regular visiting times. Sharing some of the burden of caring for your loved one will help you maintain balance and be a more effective Alzheimer’s caregiver.


Keep your perspective

Being an Alzheimer’s caregiver is not an easy task. Even on good days, it is challenging and exhausting. Develop the ability to take one day at a time, while still keeping a long-range perspective. Don’t expect more out of yourself than is humanly possible. And take advantage of all the professional resources at your disposal.